Heartbreaking decision by the widow of the heroic 9/11 firefighter to destroy IVF samples

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The IVF samples were all the IVF samples that Tillie Giddle left from her husband Gary, and now she will bury them next to his tree on the 20th anniversary of the death of the 9/11 hero whose body was not recovered from the ashes of the Twin Towers.

Gary’s body has not been recovered (

Photo: Tilly Gidel)

Widow Tillie Giddle, holding a box of six flasks in her hand, was unsure of where to put her last precious physical bonds with her heroic husband, firefighter Gary, nearly 20 years after his death.

His body was not recovered from the ashes of the Twin Towers and the specimens were the “only thing” she and her daughter, Tilly, had left, too.

Temporarily storing it in the fridge, I settled on a cupboard full of personal tributes in Gary’s honor including the fireman’s helmet.

The mother-of-one, now 55, who knew the samples would be unusable in less than an hour after they were taken out of the cold storage, said: “The dream is finally over, the dream of having another child with my husband is over.”

She plans to bury them under what the family calls “my neighbor’s tree,” which bears fruit – new life to remember him.

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Empty coffin and family at Gary’s funeral (

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New York Daily News via Getty Images)

Gary, 44, only went to work on 9/11 to collect overtime payments in the last two weeks before his retirement, so his pension income will be increased.

The couple has always wanted a baby brother for their daughter, who was born through IVF.

The rest of the sperms were frozen by cryogenic method and kept in a specialized laboratory.

In the years following the terrorist attacks of September 11, 2001, Tilly planned to have another child but was traumatized by the loss of Gary and suffered from PTSD.

Tilly standing next to a Gary’s apple tree (

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Tele Gidel)

She also suffered from serious medical problems, including a rare cancer of the uterine lining.

As the 20th anniversary approaches, Tilly wrestles with what to do with the samples. She said, “They were in storage. They had been there for over 20 years. I decided I wanted them in my possession.”

“They were the only thing my daughter and I owned from my husband and her father. I didn’t want them in – I wanted to destroy them.

I didn’t want them to end up in someone else’s hands. You’re not quite sure what might happen in the future.”

Tilly with Tilly Jr. (

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Tillie Geidel Gary is pictured with his daughter Tillie Jenner

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Tele Gidel)

Tilly picked up the phone, called the clinic, and spoke to a nurse.

“I then spoke to the doctor who did the operation at the time,” she said. “She didn’t know who I was but he knew. And he remembered that my neighbor died on 9/11.

“Just send the samples to her,” said the doctor kindly. I was very thankful.

“It was a spiritual kind of thing to me.

Gary and Tilly get married in front of the fire truck

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John Chapel in the Big Apple)

“At first they told me I had to go down to Manhattan but I told them that due to the stress of 9/11 after my trauma, I could not drive there.

“So they got everything ready for me and put it on blocks of ice. They sent it by 24 hour delivery – I tried tracking it by number to make sure it got to me. I know they lose packages all the time so I was very worried. I was worried about what would happen if It ended up in the wrong hands.

“So I’m watching out the window and I finally see a FedEx truck stop working and I got out and signed on.

“I grabbed the box and was crying and crying and hugging him.

Gary Dotted On Tilly (

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Tele Gidel)

I felt happy and sad at the same time. I was very confused. It was like receiving a part of it that we were going to grieve.”

I remembered what happened after the FedEx driver left. At first she was very upset about letting the samples “die” and put them in her own refrigerator.

Later, she took them out of the ice and put them in a locker containing her husband’s personal items including his helmet. Within minutes they were no longer able to survive.

“I disassembled the box and had the vials,” she said of their arrival. “It took a moment. I wasn’t sure what to do with it. I knew it was only an hour for them to survive.

Gary was a brave father (

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Tele Gidel)

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“First I put them in the freezer – then I took them out and put the vials in something like a memory box. Then I put them in my husband’s closet with his fire department items and jewelry.

“It felt like the right place. We have an apple tree in our backyard. We call it a Gary tree, our Gary tree. I was going to bury them there—I haven’t yet but I will.”

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She was fully supportive of her mother.

In 2002, Tilly gave her only interview – in the Daily Mirror – at the couple’s Staten Island home about her dream of using specimens and naming baby Gary Miracle Gidel. Tilly Jr. was only eight years old at the time, but he remembered that we came home.

They decide to follow the plans they made before Gary’s death and move to the top of the state. “Moving from Staten Island was so emotional,” Tilly said. “I felt like we left a part of my husband there.

“We are happy here but the city has become too much. 9/11 comes and goes with me. Last year was really bad, for example, with PTSD.”

She added, “I don’t think I will be attending the memorial at Ground Zero this year.

“It is very painful.”

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